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What’s your best sex tip/trick?(r/AskReddit)
SEX TIP 1) Key to a good blow job –
Tongue over your bottom teeth, and suck in your top lip. No toothy feeling makes for an enjoyable experience.
Don’t suck too hard or it will hurt – but how fast you go, and how hard you suck means it is anywhere from warming them up, to simply teasing, to “I’ma try and get you off.”
Listen also to a mans breathing and learn to recognize his pattern for general enjoyment and to try and make the experience more varied.
Remember that the tongue is also VERY important and that the penis generally has different spots of sensitivity.
A blow job shouldn’t be like a car ride; boring and generally going in one direction. It should be like a roller coaster, fun and varied and always something new to keep you excited.
SEX TIP 2) Anal sex IS NOT “PLUG N’PLAY”, It makes me cringe how many redditors I see crying about ‘brown stick.’ If anyone is interested I can post proper cleaning procedure for anal.
OK – I decided to ad the proper prepping procedure for anal. Anal is quite fun and can be an enjoyable experience.
THE THREE P’s OF ANAL SEX:
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Preparation: Anal isn’t plug-n-play. You have to clean yourself. Invest in one of these, and learn how you can prepare yourself in a safe and satisfying manner. I will go in depth below.
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Patience: The anus isn’t really meant to have things going back into it. So be patient when it comes down to it. Go slow because it might be uncomfortable at first (also remember, there are two, I repeat TWO sphincters)- but with some relaxation (ex. massaging the anus with your fingers) and patience, you’ll be having fun in no time. I highly recommend that you start out on top, and guide the penis in yourself because no one knows your body better than you do. Once any discomfort fades you should be able to change positions. Just remember – it should NEVER hurt!
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Practice: Everybody’s body is different and we all enjoy different things. So with anal, it might take some practice to find out how to pleasure your partner or find pleasure yourself (if you’re on bottom bunk). So experiment a little with different positions or riding styles.
A reminder for straight folks trying anal for the first time: NEVER go from anal to vaginal. This could introduce harmful bacteria to the lady in question. So switch out the condom if you want to switch, or if you’re bare backing it (which you should only do with a partner that you have known for a while and when BOTH of you have been tested at the same for STDs/STIs) wash your penis. I mean scrub it with antibacterial soap and warm water – and rinse well. I don’t think soap in a vagina is pleasant.
NOW THE FUN STUFF
If you’ve invested in an “bulb”, fill it with warm water. Plain water. Be sure that you are comfortable with using tap water and that there is nothing in said tap water that can be harmful to the body, if you don’t trust your local tap water, distilled water from the store is good.
Squeeze out any excess air in the tube (like what doctors do with syringes) before inserting. Once you’ve done that, squirt in a comfortable amount of water – but not too much into your anus. I’m a semi-trained professional and don’t really bother with lube, but it may help first timers to lube up the shaft of the bulb before insertion.
I do it in the tub usually, or on the toilet. IT is however, best to release the water in a squatting position where your knees are above where your belly button is. Once you’ve, well, released that and whatever came with it, relax. Sit for a few minutes (2-5 mins) and relax before doing it again. Sometimes things will take a minute to work their way down and need to work their way out – so don’t force it. Repeat this step a few times.
My rule of thumb is to know I’m safe for sex when I squirt some water, release the water, and after about 5 minutes nothing works it’s way down I usually am golden. That is when I stick a finger up my bum, and make sure.
Now you will want to take a shower, and firstly, with your back facing the water, you want to stick a finger into your anus and move it in a circular motion and letting in as much of the running water to pretty much give it a good scrub and ensure cleanliness. Then, scrub yourself silly with some good soap (including your legs and feet – you’ll know why) and you’re good to go.
Now. Anal sex is different than vaginal. Vaginas are like bacon and can usually make their own grease. Anuses aren’t like bacon. So anal sex usually requires a different lube to make it more satisfying. I highly recommend Gun Oil.
Good luck, I hope this was helpful enough – will be willing to answer questions!